Most parents—indeed, all parents—want their children to succeed in youth sports. OK, let’s admit it: They would like their children to be stars. That’s normal. And they want to be involved in their star’s—err, child’s—sport activities. That, too, is normal. In fact, parental involvement is a critical element in the overall success of youngsters’ sport participation.
Youth sports should be viewed as a part of child rearing, and parents obviously should be part of that experience. But parents’ obligation to participate must include taking responsibility for behaving appropriately. Coaches, program administrators, sport officials, and the athletes themselves have a right to demand that spectators conform to acceptable standards of behavior.
What are some guidelines for appropriate parent behavior prior to and during sport events?
Pre-Practice/Game Preparation
During Practices/Games
Youth sports should be enjoyable for everyone, so remember to have fun. Moreover, in addition to some obvious don’ts (using profanity, drinking alcohol, etc.), you are encouraged to follow these rules of conduct:
What if a parent violates a rule of conduct?
You have the obligation to control your own behavior, and to remind others of their responsibilities, if necessary.
When parents behave badly (loud, rowdy, obnoxious actions), it is primarily the duty of program administrators and sport officials to step in. But you can also help to correct the situation with a reminder that these are just kids playing a game.
Caution! When parents misbehave, it could be emotionally charged and potentially dangerous. So, be very careful and diplomatic in how you approach unruly parents.
Editor’s Note: Thank you to Frank L. Smoll, Ph.D., and Ronald E. Smith, Ph.D., for this article. Drs. Smoll and Smith are sport psychologists at the University of Washington and co-directors of Youth Enrichment in Sports. To see previews of their Mastery Approach to Parenting in Sports and Mastery Approach to Coaching DVDs, visit www.y-e-sports.com.